Before I became a parent, there were so many things I observed other parents do that I swore I never would. Of course, things changed once I became a parent. Parenthood is a whole different world that no amount of studying can prepare you for.
It has opened my eyes. Parenting is tough no matter how you slice it. Everyone is trying their best. I see no point in parent wars that I see on a daily basis on social media. There are millions of parents in the world, and with that, a million ways to raise children.
When my son was getting ready to eat solid foods, I swore that I would only feed him homemade purees. No store bought foods for us! However, with my daughter, I made purees for a few weeks, and switched to store bought baby food. Does that make me love my daughter any less? Of course not. Taking care of two children has been exponentially harder. I’ve learned to pick my battles and embrace those shortcuts out there that make life easier.
If I spread myself too thin, I’ll wear myself out. If there’s anything harder than parenting, it’s parenting while sick! I’ve learned that I need to take care of myself before I can take care of anyone else. It’s like that now cliche expression that you need to put your oxygen mask on first before assisting others. Knowing my limits has been a game changer for me.
Has your perspective changed since becoming a parent? What shortcuts have you taken to preserve your sanity?